maureen ochieng
2 min readMar 22, 2021

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IS MARRIAGE A GOAL THAT MUST BE ACHIEVED?

In today’s society the young generation have been made to believe that one should get married or marry once he or she has become of age. It’s like our elders came up with a manual that must be followed, you know, go to school, get a degree, get a job, and get married start a family. Failure to which you are considered stubborn for most ladies, cursed in some communities, tough headed or brainwashed by the western culture. This “manual” has got every young person on their toes. Everyone wants to get married before “the deadline” like is it even a must? Nowadays married people think they have really achieved something in life making their unmarried friends feel like failures. I am not against marriage, I am against the pressure put on us young generation. This has made people settle for some toxic relationships in their lives leading to domestic violence, suicides and a lot of street families especially those who have been kicked out by their spouse.

My point is, marriage should be on your list if you ever want to get married at some point in life but it should not be a goal that has a deadline. You should marry when you are ready to settle and when you are sure you have the right partner. Do not rush with it, take your time and get to know your partner, know his true colors so that you don’t get married to a stranger. There are far much better things to achieve not just marriage. I mean what is the point of getting married to the wrong person just because you are scared of dying single, or because you want to please your parents and then you spend the rest of your life being unhappy and scared to end the marriage because you already have kids or you want people to think that you marriage is perfect.

Avoid the pressure put on you by your parents or elders, stand your ground and have ready answers for them. You might sound rude but it is the only way to make them stop pressuring you, it’s your life not theirs for heaven sake. I mean they won’t be there to help you when your marriage is crumbling, you’ll just be told to fight for your marriage and in the end they will bury you. The next time someone asks you why you are not married just tell them “I will marry when I want, not when YOU want”

We should learn not to be people pleasers, do what makes you happy, not what you think will make others happy. Avoid peer pressure and run your race and stop comparing yourself to others.

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maureen ochieng

I write what is in my mind, what I experience day to day, what i dream about in form of poetry,scripts,short stories or just educative articles.